Monday, August 4, 2008

THE TALK

When are you going to have “the talk” with your kids? Are you going to use any resources? Is Dad going to talk to the boys and you to the girls? Or are you responsible for both genders? (How old were you when you were told about sex? Who told you?)

3 comments:

Momma Basel said...

My husband is going to have the talk with our son and I get to talk with the girls. We know that much. The "when" is the trick.

I was told about it in 5th grade by my mom. But I've heard of girls these days having their "welcome to womanhood" moments by age 10 and 11! Crazy! I don't think I have anything to worry about yet with my 4 yo, but at what age should I start thinking about doing that?

Meghan Theiss said...

Well, we actually had a little run-in with this topic on accident already, and my kids are just 5! We got a book called "Before you were Born" on the shelf at church. We borrowed it, and as we were reading together, all of a sudden the book took a drastic turn. See, the author believes that parents need to get to their kids first on the subject, in order to feed them the first info. with a biblical perspective. I really am all for that concept, but I just couldn't finish reading. They had all the terms and explanations for parts in this book, and it didn't feel right! So, I called up my friend/midwife who is a mother, and I asked her what to do with all this. She gave sound advice. She wanted her daughter to know that she can always come to her first to talk about stuff. Therefore, when her daughter started asking questions about things related to this topic, she would start answering them in truth. But the daughter would get to a point where she didn't want to hear anymore--grossed out, she would leave it at that. Then, she would come back for more info. at a later date. Granted, I do believe she was older than 5. But they do hear things from other kids so early of age these days. If you need the book I mentioned, or are interested for when you might need it (because it really is written well) then there is actually a whole series of them. God's Design for Sex: Before I Was Born, by Caroyn Nystrom. Again, there are diff. ones for diff. ages. All that said, I do want my husband to talk to the girls about boys and being wary of how to act around them. Phew! Heavy topic.
--Meghan

Anonymous said...

When "the time" comes (I don't know when that will be) my husband will talk to our son and I will talk to our daughters. We try to be open and honest with the kids when things come up now, but luckily they haven't too much. We did read a good book the kids enjoyed without too much info (though you'll want to pre-read it in case you think it says too much)that we got at the library- The Story of Me by Stanton Jones. It says it's for ages 3-5 and I think that is pretty accurate age for the info.