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I know that all children flourish with time and touch. But I've also seen each of those love languages come out more in each of my kids.
I think that's my 2 yo boy's love language is touch. He's very cuddly and always wants to sit on our lap and touch our ears. (Anyone else have an ear toucher??)
While my 4 yo girl likes her share of cuddling, I think she's much more loved with time. She really likes to have people involved with her and being by her.
Baby girl seems to also be in the "touch" category, but I don't know if that's a baby thing or if that's her personality.
I believe that my love language is time. My husband's love language is touch.
It's very interesting how our daily lives are affected. I'm not a "toucher" -- I have a huge personal space, so it doesn't come naturally for me to hug or cuddle or reach out to touch a shoulder or whatever. My husband and I have talked many times about how simply holding his hand or touching his shoulder or whatever can make a huge difference to him. It's not easy for me to do, but I'm working on it. It's easier to love on 2 yo because he'll sit in my lap when we read or play or snack. And Baby...well, she's held a lot. :)
With 4 yo, I can sit down with her in her room and she'll tell me what to do and how to play with her, and that works for both of us! She gets the time with me that she needs, and I don't have to wonder how to play! :)
Wow Karen, that's actually really insiteful(sp?). This sounds terrible, but I don't think I ever really thought about it before.
With the kids, Dagan (5) is def a cuddler, he has always been my 'snugglebug'. He loves to climb in our lap, give hugs and kisses (and now kisses my belly too,very cute). The girls both love to cuddle and give hugs and kisses but I think with them both it's time! They want to sit and read a book with or to us, play a board game or Wii game, play kitchen, etc...I think they want the time and attention from us more than the hugs. They are both always more likely to say 'watch me' do this, or 'look at me' and the picture I drew. They really need the reassurance or 'way to go' type praise. More so than our son does....not that he doesn't like and thrive on praise too, but you get what I mean...
With people I know/care for I don't mind the hugs and touching, although don't get me started on personal space/claustrophobia with people I don't know. When it comes to my husband, holding hands, hugs and kisses etc are very important to us both. I love to hug my kids, but then at that same time, the touch part can really annoy me sometimes too (especially if I'm not feeling well or tired)...so what does that mean? Like right now, the kids love to rub my expanding belly, a few times is ok, but by the end of the day and we've rubbed it now 46 times, I've had enough and I don't want to be touched anymore! Does that make sense??? With Ty's job, the way his hours are, he is able to spend a lot of time with us as a family and with me, now that the kids are in school. I adore this time (so do the kids). It is very special to me and it's hard to give it up, if he works an extra shift or has a meeting or whatever. We've had other people say that spending 'that much' time with their partner, all the time, would drive them crazy! But we both really enjoy it. Anyway, I think I would say that it would be more time than touch for me and for Ty, the touch side might be a little heavier weighted. He might say different.....this was a hard one for me Karen...thanks for making me think about it!
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