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I don't know how to get my kids to not be whiny or wimpy about everything.
My 2 yo (almost 3) boy whines loudly every time 11 mo touches him or comes near him. And my 4 yo girl cries when something happens that doesn't go her way. Both 2 yo and 4 yo tend to be dramatic about falling (the kind that doesn't even leave a mark and that they've forgotten about 10 seconds later).
How do I challenge them to toughen up? Should I punish them if they cry over something? Seriously in need of help here!!
I'm no help but if you figure it out please let me know! My middle on would have the exact same reaction if she fell down an entire flight of stairs or if she scratched her finger...there is no difference to the wailing! We've tried explaining it to her (i.e. we aren't going to realise if you are hurt really bad sometime because your crying is the same no matter what happens..cue the boy who cried wolf story), both right after a wailing session and during a time when nothing has happened...both to no avail. I'm hoping its something that she grows out of. I think a lot of time it is directly related to their mood, how tired they are, etc....
I don't know if this will help but I watched my brother in law with his 4 year old son and thought it was great. Whenever he fell or bumped himself or something (as long as it wasn't bleeding ) My bro in law would just say " shake it off" and the little boy would litteraly "shake it off" and be fine. The crying stopped, usually, and everything went back to normal. The dad didn't cuddle him everythime he cried and he didn't even pay him much attention until he stopped crying. I've been doing the same with levi but he's still pretty young so I don't know if it will stick. Plus it helps if you see what happened and can determine if it's worth crying about or not. I hope this helps.
I can relate! My first born, especially, cries if I barely touch him! One thing my husband did which was amazingly great...one night our 4 yr old girl was crying and carrying on about the 5 yr old brother hiding one of her toys. My husband said, "well, lets all just scream and cry about it. Ready?? WAAAAAAA!!! WAAAA!!!!, etc ,etc" They did that for about 15 seconds and stopped and said, "there, that helped, huh? Your animal is back now, right? No? Well, lets do it again, WAAAAA!!!!! WAAAA!!!!" they did it about 2 more times and she could really see in a funny way that screaming did not bring her toy back. We talked with her about a better way to get what she wanted and all was well. I was so impressed with how he dealt with it. We've used that a couple of times since as a reminder that all that screaming and crying really does not help. By the end, everyone is smiling and happy because it is so silly. And a lesson I hope sticks! :)
That's awesome Amy! We've done that too, but it hasn't been nearly that effective yet.... I think our kids are just too young yet at 2, and 3.
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